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How to Design the Perfect ManCave

In the modern world, manhood has largely been relegated to the outdoors and a few sports arenas. However, in a house that has been man-built and maintained, there needs to be a space for unbridled masculinity. The following is how to build the perfect manly refuge amidst the nooks, the obsessive color coordination and the bay windows of modern life.

Step 1: Understand the Area

There’s a certain amount of space you can use, and that’s what you’ve got for the time being. Trying to get a space to be something it’s not is like lying about your heritage — it’s embarrassing and it won’t help you with anything. When you reconcile with the space you’ve got, clean it out and take a good look at what you have to work with. This is your new canvas, and you are its artist.

Step 2: Decide What Your Theme is Going to Be

The great thing about a space that’s all for you is that it can be whatever you want it to be. If you love cars, it can be your personal auto shop. If you’re big into woodworking, it’s all about the saws and sanders.

The number of possible themes is as limitless as are your potential interests. No matter what your hobbies may be, these will create and populate your cave’s theme. The better defined your theme is in your mind, the better you will be able to make it work in real life.

Step 3: Color the Place, but in a Manly Way

Color coordination isn’t solely a lady’s domain. As great as it is to kick back in a testosterone-infused paradise of relaxed social etiquette, the place doesn’t have to look like a sloppy mess. Your mancave can actually look very refined and visually powerful by keeping your color scheme tight and controlled.

This tightness and control can be a relaxing element that shows off your confidence. Naturally, your color scheme doesn’t have to come from the Martha Stewart catalog. Your colors can be road-cone orange, jet black and chrome, just so long as it suits you.

Step 4: Keep the Light Reasonable

The use of light can wash out a space or make it just bright enough to be useful for what you want to do therein. To start with, keep natural light controlled. You can use Roman blinds from the TheShadeStore.com to stay in control of outdoor light interference, and from there you can choose how much artificial light you want to use. Using long fluorescent lights down the center and sides of the ceiling usually provides plenty of illumination for just about anything.

Step 5: Manage the Space

Once you have the space mapped out, properly lit and equipped with a theme, you need to make sure that everything you want to do in there is actually possible. Will a pool table, full woodshop, auto shop and Olympic gym fit into a 10-foot square space? Quite possibly not. Know your limits and make sure everything fits with room to move around.

Building your mancave is an exciting creative endeavor. Just make sure you don’t trip up on a tiny detail.

  

3 Tips to Crush Your First Date with a Woman

Let’s be frank: not every man is going to be able to crush his first date with a woman. There are just some guys out there who don’t have anything going on that gets a woman interested. Fortunately, there are a lot fewer of those guys than you might suspect, and a lot of guys really could crush it if they just understood what makes a woman tingle.

Don’t Be Superficial, But Pay Attention to Your Demeanor

man and woman hugging near beach

According to Dr Gordon Patzer, author of Looks: Why They Matter More Than You Ever Imagined, women assess some basic physical things about you instantly upon meeting you, and they re-assess these things at the beginning of each date.

• Your stature (height, weight, and proportion of the two)

• Your hygiene (you don’t have to be Queer Eye, but you absolutely must be clean)

• Your smile (smile early and smile often)

• Your self-comfort (the more relaxed and humble you can be without being self-deprecating, the better you come off)

Anything you can do to improve these four elements will immediately put you further into the driver’s seat.

Make an Earnest Attempt to Engage at a Deeper Level

Women are, without a doubt, much more involved on a deeper level than your average man is — and if you want to hit a first date out of the park, you’re going to have to show her that you’re just as involved and in-depth as she is. That means:

Be confident. This is often misinterpreted as “alpha male”-ness or “dominance”, but the truth is much simpler: a man that isn’t confident isn’t going to impress a girl, end of story. You don’t have to be macho or tough — a quiet competence is more attractive than a ‘bad boy’ attitude. Just stick to what you know without intimidating her.

Be just a little classy. Too much class comes off as snooty and arrogant, but just a touch of class — being deliberately chivalrous (opening doors, pulling out chairs) goes a long way toward separating yourself from the unwashed masses. You can also show off a bit of class with physical goods. Showing up in a unique car, for example, can be a huge statement (even if you have to pick one up at a used car dealership; she doesn’t have to know it was only $450 after your trade-in!)

Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

This is easily the number one date-killer. Show her that you can be funny by making light fun of yourself. If you do something awkward or clumsy, laugh it off. If she proves you wrong on something, be gracious and make it into a joke. Being able to accept that something went imperfectly with a sense of humor and a wave of the hand is absolutely key to crushing that first date — because something will go wrong. How you handle it is key.

Most men don’t realize how many of these “tinglers” are completely within their control. Figure out how to incorporate them into your personality, and you can crush almost any first date you go on.

  

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